![]() ![]() Tip: If you find you’re addicted to snarkiness, it’s helpful to think about how old that behavior is. The more evolved behavior to engage in – that requires strength, self-awareness, self-esteem, and courage - is to be kind, patient, compassionate, and gentle, to be a teacher and an uplifter of spirits, rather than one who tears others down. When you can do that on a regular basis, then you’re really doing something special and important. Truthfully, it’s easy to be snarky. Just spend 30 minutes on the internet and you can see that we humans have that behavior down to a science. Your snarkiness and sarcasm reveal a great deal more about you and how you see yourself and the world than you realize, and none of it is positive. I’ve found that it’s often because they have ego and self-esteem challenges, and are addicted to putting others down so they can feel better about themselves. Sadly, this type of snarky, cruel behavior is like a bottomless pit – it’s dark, cold, sad and lonely, and leaves you feeling even more isolated and disconnected after you utter your cruel words than before. But in the long run, it destroys relationships, crushes opportunities and closes pathways to greater happiness, success and fulfillment. It might be enjoyable for some (in a sadistic way) to be snarky to others, and some individuals find it helps them relieve their anxiety and insecurity for a split second. The most common communication flaw I see every day, a hundred times a day, is what I call ‘snarkiness’ – being mean, harsh, demeaning, disrespectful, and slapping someone down with disdain and sarcasm. What’s become abundantly clear is that there are several common, damaging communication patterns that contribute to or exacerbate our life and work challenges, but most often, people are not at all aware of them. An unhealthy workplace will take a toll on your well-being - no matter how much mental strength you possess.Part of Kathy Caprino's series " Living and Working Better "Īs a coach working with folks to improve their lives and careers, I hear from hundreds of people a month who are dealing with a wide variety of personal and professional problems. Then, you’ll be putting your attention where it should be - with positive people.Įveryone has the ability to build bigger mental muscles so they can handle tough circumstances and snarky people in a healthy way.īut, if you find yourself in a toxic environment, you may need to get out altogether. Or, if you’re in a meeting and someone offers a snarky comment about your latest idea, turn and talk to the people who seem genuinely interested. When it’s warranted say something like, “I noticed you rolled your eyes when you reminded me about that project. But they aren’t afraid to call someone out for their behavior.Ĭommit to using direct communication. They don’t feel like they have to get the last word in and they aren’t interested in arguing just for the sake of it. But they also recognize that it’s sometimes best to ignore someone who is using snarky comments just to get attention. Mentally strong people understand when to be assertive and they’re not afraid to speak up. They Know When to Speak Up And When to Shut Up Ultimately, you’ll want to be able to hold your head high and know you were able to be the bigger person. No matter how tempted you are, don’t stoop to other people’s level. Whether that means repeatedly telling themselves, “It’s important to treat others with respect,” or it means excusing themselves from situations that aren’t in line with their beliefs, mentally strong people know maintaining their integrity is the key to inner peace. ![]() Mentally strong people know their values and they make it a priority to live according to them - even when faced with snarky people. Reframe your upsetting thoughts, take deep breaths to stay calm, and walk away from the situation when it’s warranted. Or decide that you aren’t going to let your supervisor’s snide remarks affect your self-worth. Commit to making it a good day, even when your co-worker is rude. If an individual makes it a habit to spout snarky comments, decide that you’re not going to allow that individual to take up too much room in your life. And you certainly don’t want to let negative, snarky comments to influence how you feel about yourself or what type of day you’re going to have. Allowing others to control the way you think, feel, or behave gives them power over you. ![]()
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